50/50 Custody Benefits... why shared parenting is important

Research shows that children thrive under joint custody arrangements such as 50/50. Here are the top 10 reasons why shared parenting is important for child happiness and well-being.

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Andrew Lancaster

Timtab Founder

March 20, 2020

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50/50 custody, joint custody and shared parenting all offer important benefits to children and parents. The advantages are explained here with the help of a top 10 list.

Definitions
  • 50/50 custody is where a child spends equal amounts of time in the care of each parent.

  • Joint physical custody and shared parenting are where each parent has at least 35% care time.
  • 50/50 custody is a form of joint physical custody and shared parenting, along with similar arrangements such as 60/40.

Best Examples of 50/50 and 60/40 Schedules

Before discussing the pros of 50/50 custody and shared parenting, here are examples of the best kinds of 50/50 and 60/40 schedules. Timtab AI software often scores these schedules highest.

Top rated 50/50 custody schedule: 3-2-2
Best example of a 50/50 custody schedule

The 50/50 custody schedule Timtab most often recommends is the 3-2-2 fortnightly schedule. Each parent has alternating weekends with the child (3 nights) plus blocks of twin nights either side of the other parent's weekend.

  • The schedule is ideal for an older child (8 or above) where both parents live close to the school district.
  • Swaps normally happen through school (so no extra driving) and 3 nights is the longest regular time away from a parent.
Best 60/40 joint custody schedule: 3-2-1
Best example of a 60/40 custody schedule

The top rated 60/40 custody schedule – which is also considered joint physical custody / shared parenting – is the 3-2-1 fortnightly schedule. Again, you have alternating weekends. This time, the "40% parent" has two overnights before the other parent's weekend and an overnight on the Monday after.

  • The parent living closest to school has the child every Tuesday.
  • Each parent gets a 2-day or 3-day break before having the child for the weekend.

Note that these are the top-rated 50/50 and 60/40 schedules in some cases only. Timtab technology produces individual schedules for each situation, taking into account child ages, travel times, etc. Furthermore, 50/50 and 60/40 schedules are not usually recommended for very young children or where parents live far apart.

Summer 50/50 custody: week about arrangement
Summer week about 50/50 custody schedule

For long school breaks (normally in the summer), a week about arrangement may be ideal for an older child. The changeover can happen each Saturday morning for example. By having week-long visits, you avoid extra swaps and travel.

The schedule needs to be consistent with vacation arrangements. For example, a parenting plan could allow parents to add 5 extra nights to a scheduled week-long stay. That would give each parent the option for an annual 12-night vacation.

Research on Shared Parenting Benefits

The idea that children benefit from joint custody and shared parenting appears to be confirmed by research evidence. For example, studies show:

  • Children living full-time with one parent are more stressed than children in shared custody (Stockholm University);
  • Preschool children aged 3 to 5 in joint physical custody have fewer psychological problems than those who live mostly or only with one parent (Uppsala Universitet); and
  • Children do better on a broad measure of wellness – covering emotional health, physical health, academic achievement and more – if their parents follow a shared parenting plan after separating (Linda Nielsen).

Research in this area is difficult and rarely gives much insight into why shared parenting is beneficial. But we can come up with 10 good reasons using (a) research findings (b) logic (c) anecdotal evidence (d) personal experience and (e) a little common sense. That's what we've done to produce our top 10 list of 50/50 custody benefits.

1. Two Parents are Better Than One

Strong looking father and mother

The number 1 benefit of 50/50 custody is that the arrangement maximizes the advantage of a child having two parents. Neither parent is marginalized and both are able to contribute to the best of their ability.

To understand why two parents are better than one, think about the African proverb "It takes a village to raise a child." What this means is that a child is more protected and has a richer experience by interacting with many people who care about him or her.

Having the close involvement of two parents in children's lives offers many benefits.

  • A better balanced upbringing is likely. For example, one parent might be enjoy reading to their child while the other coaches them in sports.
  • Children gain access to the extended families and friendship groups of both parents.
  • Each parent is able to bring their own individual strengths to help develop their child, such as empathy, medical knowledge or teaching ability.

  • An individual parent's errors, weaknesses and blindspots are far less likely to have serious long-term impacts. For example, the effects of poverty in one household can be overcome by a child spending half their time in the other home.
  • Children have two major role models and have two different households that they grow up in, allowing them to choose which behaviors to copy and which to avoid.

I believe every parent comes to realize that you can't raise a child properly on your own. You need other people so that you don't screw your kid up in some way. And an extremely effective way to get that involvement from others is to share parenting duties evenly.

2. Children are Happier Being Close to Both Parents

Father holding daughter and both smiling

50:50 custody has the benefit of allowing a child to know both parents very well. And children have a deep need to connect to their mother AND father.

The ill-effects of father absence have been well documented. According to Dr Edward Kruk, father absence is associated with:

  • Insecurity and diminished self-confidence
  • Behavioral problems
  • Truancy and poor academic results
  • Delinquency, youth crime and teenage pregnancy
  • Drug and alchohol abuse.

Just not knowing a biological parent seems to cause problems for children, creating an inner void that is not easily filled by others. And the quality of the relationship matters too.

Children who feel a closeness and warmth with their father are twice as likely to enter college, 75 percent less likely to have a child in their teen years, 80 percent less likely to be incarcerated and half as likely to show various signs of depression.

Furstenberg and Harris

Frequent, lengthy contact with both parents gives a child the opportunity to form two essential relationships. For children whose parents live apart, that level of contact is best achieved by 50:50 custody and shared parenting.

3. 50 50 Custody Puts Quality into Quality Time

Mother kissing her toddler child

50 50 custody boosts the overall quality of time that parents and children share with one another. When you're only with each other for half the time, moments spent together becomes that much more precious.

When parents and children catch up after a break, depending on age, they might: hug, debrief on what has been happening in each other's lives, do an activity they enjoy together, share a meal, etc.

50 50 custody is the ultimate form of shared parenting. The two parents are treated as equals and fully share responsibilities for raising children.

Adam Singleton

Co-parenting can improve the quality of parent-child relationships. You tend to avoid bad habits and routines, such as slumping in front of a TV after work or school and not communicating.

  • Parents tend be fresher and keen to see their children.
  • Hopefully, children feel loved and are more appreciative of time with each parent.

A good joint custody schedule maximizes the quality gains from shared parenting. The visits and breaks are regular and neither too short nor too long. Each period apart is a chance for the parent to refresh and prepare for the next visit.

4. Children Get to Have Two Homes

Beautiful home with green lawns

Shared parenting means a child effectively has two homes at the same time. That provides for a richer, more varied experience while growing up.

With two homes, a child has access to more spaces and features. For example, they could play computer games in the games room at one home. When staying with the other parent, they might enjoy spending time at a local park or with a neighbor kid from school.

Two homes also means children get to experience living with more people. Quite often, a child may be living across homes with a combined four adults and multiple half and step siblings.

And two homes in a 50/50 custody arrangement provides much more stability than many people imagine. 50% of your time living in a household is more than enough to feel "at home".

5. Children Benefit from Competitive Parenting

Woman in female high jump competition

An important but seldom discussed benefit of co-parenting is the healthy competition it stirs up. No separated or divorced parent wants to feel like their child prefers staying with their ex. That works to keep parents on their game to provide good experiences.

Even if you strongly value discipline, hard work, academic achievement, etc, you still want your child to enjoy coming to stay with you. Shared care encourages parents to pay attention to and satisfy the needs of their children.

50/50 custody is a platform for the fairest, most beneficial competition. In contrast to sole custody with visitation, both parents need to take care of routine, mundane aspects of parenting. You don't get the unhealthy situation where one parent has so little time with their child that they end up spending much of it indulging in outings, junk food, travel, etc.

6. Shared Parenting Improves Living Standards

Father and son playing a video game

Children who live in a shared care arrangement, especially 50:50 joint custody, enjoy higher living standards because of it. Poverty risks are lessened since children live across two households. If living standards are low in one home, at least a child might make up for it in the other.

For example, a child might spend their time reading, watching TV and doing other low-cost activities in the poorer household. When staying with the better-off parent, they might play video games, go shopping and eat out at restaurants. Overall, the child enjoys a good standard of living.

Shared parenting also improves living standards by allowing a child to spend more time with their higher-earning parent. Income statistics for Australia show that recipients of child support earn only about half of what payers do. And payers usually have less than 14% physical custody. Where kids see paying parents more, the children are materially better off.

The majority (65 per cent) of child support payers have below 14 per cent care of their children. The median income of payers was $47,985. The median income of child support payees at June 2019 was $23,953.

Department of Social Services submission to Australia's Family Law Inquiry

One of the reasons why child support recipients have such low incomes is the large amount of time they spend looking after children. In contrast, 50/50 custody allows both parents to participate in the workforce and earn a good income.

7. Financial Resources are Shared Naturally

Father holding out credit card

50:50 custody and shared parenting avoid many of the financial problems of raising children post-separation. Without even trying, shared care gets both parents financially contributing in a fair way.

When both parents are looking after kids, they routinely pay for stuff without a second thought. They pay rent or mortgage on a bigger home, cover food and energy costs, pay for outings, vacations, etc. And each parent ends up contributing what they can reasonably afford.

Contrast this way of managing costs with sole custody, where child support is relied on. One parent has to hand over money for things he or she may not want to purchase. The non-custodial parent doesn't even get the pleasure of seeing their child benefit from the spending.

The child support system weakens the child/father bond by separating the act of love from the act of providing.

Kathryn Edin

Child support is an unsatisfactory way of handling spending. Payers are often resentful. Recipients are encouraged to stay dependent on their ex. Parents who may want little to do with one another are forced into an unhealthy financial relationship.

It is no wonder that children have better overall living standards with 50:50 custody. They naturally benefit from the financial resources of both parents. And you are less likely to have one parent failing to contribute properly.

8. Fathers are Happier

Father feeding his baby

For the many divorced and separated Dads who want to be with their children often, co-parenting is a blessing. You are able to maintain close relationships with the little person or people you love most in the world. And you are able to fulfill a role that gives life meaning and purpose: being an involved father with your child or children.

Fathers who lose custody were consistently found to be at greater risk for chronic health conditions, psychological impairment, and death. Of particular concern is the suicide risk of divorced men who become legally disenfranchised from their children.

Edward E Bartlett

Fathers do not enjoy handing over child support for the raising of their children. What they usually want is to be with their sons and daughters. The best way for that to happen when parents live apart is 50:50 custody or another form of shared parenting.

And a happy father makes for a happy child. Contented fathers who are in good shape physically and mentally are better positioned to help their children thrive.

9. Mothers are Happier

Confident, happy, beautiful woman

Thanks to personal bloggers, we know that mothers appreciate the advantages of shared parenting. That appears to be true even among mothers who initially wanted sole custody.

Mothers who co-parent get more time to themselves. That means they are more refreshed, eager and prepared each time their parenting duties begin again. They should be happier and are better able to provide quality parenting.

Those hours are a precious commodity I fully utilize to nurture friendships, date, work, exercise and relax. When the kids come home Sunday evening, we are all so happy to see each other and I can feel in my whole body how much more energy I have for them.

Emma Johnson

Before you ask the court to review your case one more time (in the hopes of winning sole custody), consider the unexpected benefits you can expect to enjoy once you all get used to the joint custody arrangement.

Jennifer Wolf

Co-parenting mothers can invest time in themselves for the benefit of their children. They are able to work on their physical and mental health, do online courses, work more hours to advance their career, and do things like date and build friendships. By sharing care of their children, mothers can become stronger parents and better role models.

10. The Next Generation Wins Too

Grandfather and grandson scanning the mountain views

Shared parenting has positive benefits for children into their adult lives. Because children are able to form strong bonds with both parents, they likely have a much stronger support base as they enter into adulthood.

When a child becomes an adult and child support payments stop, who can they rely on to help with education expenses or a deposit for their first home? A young man or woman who is close to both parents is better positioned than one raised in sole custody.

Growing up in a shared parenting arrangement also better equips a person to raise their own family. They have had more role models in their life. And they probably have a large extended family to draw on.

Separating parents who choose to share their parenting duties equally are, in a way, also moving towards sharing their grandparent duties. When a mother and father cooperate in this way, that must surely be good for all those who follow.

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