Here are the best free co-parenting apps you can get. The reviews explain how each app, tool or method works and why it is good for separated or divorced parents.
September 4, 2019
Free co-parenting apps are available to help co-parents with communication and organizational tasks. Other free online tools that are not "apps" as such are also benefiting co-parents. These include scheduling programs and communication guides.
You may be surprised learn that the best apps and tools for coparenting are typically free. Often, the best option is a free general app rather than a paid app that's just for co-parents.
The top 5 apps, tools or methods work brilliantly and they won’t cost you a cent. Each one does a different thing. To set yourself up for smooth co-parenting, you could consider using most or all of them.
Gmail! That's right. We all know about it and most of us use it. Gmail is the world's most popular email app.
Why Gmail for co-parenting? Because it works and it's free. Just think about some of the advantages:
Another advantage is that people routinely check their emails. By using email, with Gmail or another provider, your messages will generally be read.
Gmail can, however, be less than ideal when a quick response is needed. Most people receive lots of emails and don't always get to them straight away. For that reason, the next type of app is handy as well.
An app to exchange text messages comes free with every mobile phone. All you need is the other parent's mobile phone number in order to start sending and receiving texts.
The advantage of text messages for co-parents is speedy communication. Most people set their phones to be alerted every time a new message is received. And they tend to respond straight away.
Phone texting allows co-parents to exchange info quickly. And because each parent is typing on a phone, the messages naturally tend to be short and to the point.
The Easy Parent Communication Plan from Timtab is a conflict-avoidance tool. The Plan includes six rules you can follow to make conflict all but impossible.
Using the Plan means you communicate with the other parent in a controlled way. The first rule, for example, is that you communicate in writing rather than by talking.
Signing up to the free Plan is a personal choice and you don’t need the other parent to agree to anything. You adopt a business-like communication style yourself. By doing this, you also limit the ability of the other parent to create unwanted drama.
The Easy Parent Communication Plan is ideal for separated or divorced parents who want to move on from the old relationship and improve communication efficiency. It's a device to help you stay disciplined and protect everyone from potential conflict.
Timtab's schedule creator is an intelligent design tool for coparents. With it, you can quickly produce a schedule detailing when each parent has care of the kid(s).
Here's how it works. You enter information about your parenting situation, including the ages of the kids and travel times between each home and school. Timtab automatically generates an optimal parenting schedule. It can have a weekly, fortnightly, tri-weekly or monthly pattern.
Suppose, for example, one parent lives close to their child's school and the other parent lives quite far away. Timtab will most likely create a fortnightly schedule where the child visits the "distant parent" mainly on weekends.
Different schedules can be produced for future times when a child is older and may prefer longer visits. The software accounts for the different developmental stages of children.
The technology is extremely simple to use. Numerous customization options are available too. For example, you can set a minimum care percentage for each parent.
Dates and times present an organizational issue for coparents. Both of you need to be clear about when changeovers happen, including during holiday periods. And you need to be aware of activities that come up such as birthday parties and sports days.
A highly effective (and free) calendar app for co-parents is Google Calendar. You can manage your own schedule by adding events to the app. And you can coordinate dates and times with the other parent by sharing each other's calendars.
I made a separate Google calendar for the kids and linked it to my ex's account. I put things like visitation, doctor's appointments and school-related activities on it. My ex could see when these things were happening and could add things he wanted so I could see them. It worked well.
To stay on top of regular visits, you can add a recurring event. That gives you the ability to look ahead months or years and check whether you are providing care on a certain day. You can see visually whether you are on duty or free.
The above reviews highlight the power of free co-parenting apps. Just about any task can be done well by a free app.
The apps may be free but that doesn't mean you miss out on quality. Apps like Gmail, phone messaging apps and Google Calendar may be the best of their kind in the world. You also know the software will be constantly updated.
For several years, I suggested the parenting program, Our Family Wizard, to try to alleviate communication issues I see in custody and visitation cases. This program is not cheap. A year subscription runs each parent $99. And after all of my recommendations, just a handful of clients actually used it, and I have never heard any feedback about whether the parents continued to use it.
Free apps also avoid one of the big problems with dedicated co-parenting apps. Unlike the paid apps, you don't need the other parent to sign up for something, and possibly pay for it as well, and to keep using the technology. Many things can be done independently of your ex using free apps, which is a big plus for most separated and divorced parents.